How do you talk to children about terrorism attacks



Children are not in a bubble, and it's not helpful for parents to pretend this cruelty and terror isn't going on around us. Don't pretend it doesn't exist – ask them what they think, help them understand their feelings, and teach the importance of tolerance and respect for those who don't share their same feelings. During a time where it may be difficult to feel safe in public, it is even more crucial that our kids have a safe place to share their thoughts.

Childcare Expert, Florence Ann Romano shares how to best approach talking to kids after tragic events

Talking points:

  • Explaining terrorism in this world is a tricky subject with kids. But just as we teach our children about stranger danger, we now have to prepare our kids for terrorism; how to be on the defensive; how to read their surroundings.
  • Give your children a safe space to form opinions and emotions around the topic. Give them the tools to be educated on the subject. Dinner time is a great place for conversation – depending on the age, this would be a great place for everyone to talk about what's on their mind and in their hearts.
  • Practice what you preach. Be careful what you, as a parent or a childcare worker, say in front of children. Don't watch the news and start cursing and condemning. Remember that you are a role model, and children are sponges – they will absorb that behavior. Show them how to have feelings in a constructive way.
  • Consistently teach the importance of respect, kindness, and compassion in every aspect of their lives. In the sandbox they have to learn that they aren't going to want everyone to be their friend; not everyone is going to have the same opinions as them; not everyone shares their same values. But, that's what makes the world go 'round; and that is what teaches tolerance and respect.

The Voice of Childcare in the New Millennium

Florence Ann Romano, The Windy City Nanny™ (, is a dedicated philanthropist and former nanny who has always had a special place in her heart for children. Romano worked for over 15 years as a nanny, beginning as a 'Mommy's helper' at the age of 11. She shares her experiences in Nanny and Me, her beautifully illustrated debut book for children making the transition from being cared for solely by their parents to having a nanny in their home.